Tinder’s Relationship Expert on How to Handle a Spooky Halloween: Ghosting, Safety & More!

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As Halloween approaches, it’s not just the fun costumes and creepy decorations making a comeback. For singles, says Tinder’s Canadian Relationship Expert Dr. Jess O’Reilly, this season can also bring up some less-than-thrilling dating dynamics. According to data from Tinder, users aged 18-22 are significantly less likely to ghost their matches compared to those aged 33 and older, who are 31% more likely to disappear into thin air.

The numbers may seem chilling, but Dr. Jess has some helpful tricks and treats to help singles navigate these situations and create meaningful connections that last beyond the season.

Tricks to Avoid the Spine-Tingling Specters of Ghosting

From ghosting to “zombie-ing” (when a ghost from the past returns—eek), poor communication and disrespectful behaviour can really haunt daters. Dr. Jess reminds folks to consider the following tricks:

Communication is key

Set the tone for respectful and open communication from the first Swipe. And if you’re not feeling a connection, it’s always better to be honest. “No one likes a ghost,” says Dr. Jess. “It might feel uncomfortable, but having an open conversation about your feelings—whether you’re into someone or not—helps you and your match avoid confusion and disappointment.”

Be mindful of red flags

Trust your gut! If someone is being inconsistent, cancelling plans, or going silent for periods of time without explanation, it could be a sign that they’re a future ghost.

Take it slow

Rushing into things can lead to misunderstandings or communication drop-offs. “Allow the connection to build naturally,” Dr. Jess advises. “When you really take the time to get to know someone (whether on an app or IRL), it reduces the pressure and makes it easier to communicate effectively and build a healthy foundation.”

Don’t let the haunting continue

Being ghosted can feel really personal, but Dr. Jess notes that the behaviour says more about the ghoster than it does about you! Don’t get caught up in the negativity—find someone who respects your time and boundaries. 

Halloween Dating Safety

From haunted houses to theme parties, Halloween dates can be a lot of fun. But it’s important to always prioritize your safety especially when meeting strangers who may or may not be wearing creepy masks! Dr. Jess recommends the following tips:

Choose public spaces

When meeting someone for the first few dates, opt for well-lit, public spaces. These provide a safer environment where you can feel comfortable getting to know your date without the pressure or vulnerability that might come with private or secluded locations.

Share your plans and location

Use safety features like Tinder’s ‘Share My Date’ to let a friend or loved one know where you’ll be and who you’re meeting. Checking in with your friends throughout the date can add an extra layer of security and peace of mind as well.

Set boundaries

Communicate your expectations and boundaries before meeting your date IRL, and don’t be afraid if they shift. “Whether it’s about intimacy, plans, or how much you’re comfortable sharing, consistent communication around your boundaries will help make sure they’re respected,” says Dr. Jess. “Don’t forget to listen actively to what your date has to say as well!” 

Trust your instincts

Your intuition is a powerful tool. If you feel uncomfortable or sense that things aren’t right, don’t hesitate to leave the situation, even if it means ending the date early. And remember that you can change your mind at any time. If you’re not feeling it, you can cut the date short. Or if the chemistry IRL isn’t the same as what you cultivated online, you can always pull back regardless of how hot and heavy the flirting was online.

Get your spook on, or get romantic with your boo this Halloween with these costume and date ideas for the season!

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